Marriage is hard, but divorce is harder. By having these things in common and some other factors you can decrease your chances of divorce by a lot!
We could save at least 25-50% of divorces. This is huge!
Couples Who Divorce The Least
- Couples that do Pre-Marital Counseling have up to 50% less chance of divorce!
- Couples that make $50,000+ have a 30% LESS rate of divorce
- Same Religion
- Same Political
- College Graduate
- Goes to church twice a week divorce down to 14%
- Same Vision for Future
- Religious People are 50% less likely to divorce
“Before you marry you see all the positives of the other,
after you marry you see all the negatives.”
Top Reasons for Divorce
1. Commitment
2. Communication
3. Cheating
4. Chores (wife), Finances (husband)
1. Commitment is the quality of being dedicated to a cause, an agreement or pledge to do something in the future. Most couples do not understand what it truly takes to make a marriage work. Commitment is putting in the work, effort and heart to continue to make the marriage work. They fell in love, which was actually romantic love based on endorphins and physical attraction and an optimistic viewpoint.
The marriage vows are a pledge of commitment. I take you (wife/husband) for better or worse, sickness and health, for richer or poorer, til death do us part.
How to really learn to commit?
Become aware of the areas you are lacking in or where you are weak, be willing to change, focus on that area, and commit to improving this builds character! Most people do not talk about the benefit of marriage improving our character. We grow exponentially as a married couple, we learn to give and sacrifice in ways we never thought we ever thought we would be able to do. This is the hard part of marriage, where the two become one that most couples have problems in.
What is Commitment? Commitment is the act of committing, pledging a promise, obligation, a dedication to each other of fidelity (sexual faithfulness), to put each other first (love, communion and needs). To be committed to putting yoru spouse before everyone and everything else.
What it takes to have a Lasting Commitment? A setting of the will and purposing in your heart. Protecting your eyes, mind and heart from anything that will distract and take you away from yoru commitment to your spouse. > more
2. Communication
For the women understanding that husbands have a harder time understanding when something is REALLY wrong, they need to really address or go to counseling. Give him a heads up a year earlier to let him know that honey there is something seriously wrong here. Help fix this or I’m OUT!
Learn How to Communicate WATCH:
How to Effectively Communicate During Conflict (Without Making it Worse!) – Terri Cole
Stop Being Defensive + Learn to Listen | Effective Communication Tips – Terri Cole
3. Cheating
4. Chores (wife), Finances (husband)
The forth reason wives divorce over chores. It sounds silly, but it really is not. This one thing will if husbands will understand when your wife is asking and needing help will decrease divorce by A LOT!!!!
We live in different times. I look at everything as a glass half full. We can still have lifelong amazing relationships. Both wives and husbands are working however your wife ends up doing all of the chores around the house, children and scheduling. So wives end up with 2 full time jobs! So your wife is actually working 80 hours a week! On a deep level she knows that her husband doesn’t love her enough to help her. She is literally drowning and you are watching her drown. Husbands you can fix this! This an easily fixed divorce reason. Here is a chores list, sit down and grab your wife’s hand and be real talk together and tell her you love her and you want to help. Its both of yoru home ad family and forgive me for not helping especially when I saw you struggling. Pray together
Take the Chore Quiz and plan your daily tasks togother for a happier marriage!
The forth reason husbands divorce over finances.
This is the #1 reason for fights and disagreements. Finances brings in a lot of stress and strain. Most couples will have financial struggles at one time or another. Learn early to talk and plan your finances.
Wives at times will spend and not take into account of what their budget is and they go into debt, or she doesn’t care and just spend and is not loving her husband as she should. Sit your wife down and show her where you are at financially. This is workable if you both are willing to work on it.
Here is a Blank Budget Plan to download. There are a lot of things you can do to work through these problems. For helps >Marriage Money Tips
DIVORCE STATISTICS:
- 70% of divorces initiated by women
- 90% of all divorces are dissolved without going to court
- ONLY 10% of women receive alimony
- 50% of women never remarry
- 80% of men remarry
Women suffer more financially from divorce
- Women standard of living drops by 50%
- Men’s standard of living drops by 20%
- 75% of all women who apply for welfare benefits are divorced women
- 44% of women fall into poverty after divorce
- $430 is the average child support payment
- Couples where husbands do not work full time 33% HIGHER rate of divorce
- Stat Resource
Men suffer more emotionally from divorce
Depression
Suicide
39% of men and 27% of women regret their divorce. What I tell couples is that you can always get divorced, but you wont always be able to work n your marriage. Men unfortunately hear their wife saying I’m struggling with etc, men just keep plowing along and the wife keeps waiting for the husband to hear where she is being hurt and do something but he doesn’t so she finally imitates the divorce. But two years before she initiates she’s been telling him and he doesn’t hear or take to heart. The last year she’s already gone and just going through the motions. So the husband is surprised when she files for divorce, but she stole him she was unhappy. He just neglected to hear or thought the problem would go away on its own.
DO WOMEN REALLY GET ALL THE $
Men’s and women’s financial status tends to improve when they marry, but men’s financial status tends to remain relatively unchanged following divorce, whereas women experience sizable drops in their household income, per capita income, and income-to-need ratios post-divorce.
People keep saying that when women get divorced to get all the money. When in fact 27% of women who divorce end up below the poverty level.
Only 10% of women get any alimony! The average child support is approx. $350-$450 per month, and all these Red Pill manosphere men say women are taking all the money. They are really only talking about the one percent of men who make billions and millions of dollars and him and so the women get the money.
Also show that women have been paying out big box in alimony. Also, it’s not just the men women or not just toxic and parasitical manner also toxic and parasitical it’s about toxic people not men and women.
Why Do Women Initial 70% of Divorces?
This seemed like an insane amount of women I thought wanting a divorce so I researched because
this is an epidemic proportion and no one is researching to find out what in the world is going on?
Initiating a divorce is the legal proceeding, wanting the divorce is a completely different thing. The married couple wanting the divorce is actually 50% / 50%. After researching extensively it was clear that both the husband and the wife wanted the divorce the same amount approx. 50-50. You wouldn’t know that from listening or even reading passively because everyone is going by the initiating percentage, nit the actually wanted the divorce percentage.
So 50% of divorcing women want the divorce but 70% of women initiate the divorce.
The question is why? Why are women “initialing” divorces at this insane rate?
The word here is very important, the word is not “want” to divorce. Both spouses usually want to divorce. However 70% of women “Initiate” the divorce. The question is then why? Why do women HAVE TO INITIATE the divorce. There are about 5 main reasons.
1. Husband has moved out and not paying any bills and wife can’t afford on her own.
2. Both want to divorce and wife has all the paperwork etc.
3. Wife is exhausted from her husbands lack of love and care and is done.
4. Husband cheated
5. Wife wants out
In many of these marriages women often have to do everything in the relationship. While men work, their wives often have to work full time and still juggle all the responsibilities at home, child care, food shopping, cooking, scheduling, housework and everything else. They are simply exhausted and are feel unloved. Honestly not just feel unloved but are unloved. If you love someone you help them when they are drowning. You just don’t watch them drown. Most of these women are drowning in responsibility.
It simply becomes easier to be on their own since they are basically already. It’s called “Married Single”, which plays out in their re-marriage rate. With the mindset of a lot of men not willing to help its just easier to do it themselves and they end up happier.
Wives divorce regrets about 27%
Husbands divorce regret 32-39%
Where as men re-marry at 86% rate means that they were happier married, but women just re-marry at 50%.
LAWYER HELP BLOG:
Customer: Hi. My husband and I separated in April. He left the house and I am staying in the house with my son. He said to me for now I will still pay half of the expenses. Then after about 3 months said he will no longer pay for the mortgage and any expenses. The plan is that I keep this house and he will keep 2 other houses we have (one is our vacation house and other is a rental house) and he wants to be compensated for the difference in the value that will be left.
Lawyer’s Assistant: Because real estate law varies from place to place, can you tell me what state this is in?
Customer: Now my questions are:
Lawyer’s Assistant: Has anything been filed or reported?
Customer: 1- I didn’t tell him to leave, he left. so who is responsible for the expenses?
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My husband and i own 50% each of a home together.he has been gone for over a week now and left me to pay all bills and
Lawyer’s Assistant chat
Customer: hello, my husband and i own 50% each of a home together.he has been gone for over a week now and left me to pay all bills and debts accrued during the marriage, including the mortgage.i cannot afford it by myself, so may i file abandonment and acquire the property in my name in full, so that i can sell it? thanks
@BanjoPixelSnack -All of my friends who got divorced, it was the woman who initiated it. All of them were taking almost total responsibility for taking care of the kids, running the house, managing the finances, and working full time. The husband become the expendable thing that they could drop. It was one less thing for them to have to factor into their hectic lives. The relationships I’ve observed to last are ones where the husband pulls a lot of weight at home OR where the woman does not also have a full time external job.
@michaelclark1096 -As an attorney I have been around divorce court for nearly 40 years. I find that the divorce is generally a 50/50 decision. About the same number of men and women will want a divorce. The difference is that when men leave they often will not file for divorce. They will continue to work and pay for their new residence and maybe pay part of the expenses for the house they left with their wife and kids. It is more often the wife that “has to” initiate the divorce to get things before the court so she can establish regular child support and payment of bills__ whether she really wants the divorce or not. I see that women file more often because men can go on with life still married.. Where women can not.
- About 52% of all custodial mothers have child support agreements compared to 31% of custodial fathers.
- Approximately 29.2% of custodial-mother families live in poverty compared to 16.7% of custodial-father families.
- Custodial mothers could lose up to 25% to 50% of their pre-divorce income.
- Divorced women are more likely than men to receive public assistance, live without health insurance, and have less earning potential.
- Approximately 22 percent of women divorced in the past 12 months live in poverty than 11 percent of men.
- Nearly 98% of people receiving alimony are women.
Why women divorce: Lack of Commitment, Poor Communication, Cheating and CHORES!
Why men divorce: Lack of Commitment, Poor Communication, Cheating and FINANCES!
Now lets reverse engineer divorce reasons and deal with that first so you take away major stumbling blocks and problems in marriage so you won’t get divorced!
(Red Pill Logic lol) How do women make all the money because they’re the working boss babes? But when you get divorced women get all the money? Because of all the red pill narrative online you would think that women make out in divorce when in actual truth, men have an easier time financially after divorce and over 27% of women and children end up under the poverty level after divorce.
So if anything women need a prenup to make sure that her ex-husband will help provide for her until she can support for herself. The statistics from various sources tell the story. Research from London School of Economics showed that women’s household income fell by 20% after divorce, while men’s household income rose by 30% after divorce
RESORCES:
- When a Christian spouse can be treated as a non-believer (and why abuse is hard to define
- Wives Are Exhausted! Husband Love Your Wives Better
- Why women divorce men
- Jordan Peterson about women initiating divorce
- Why 70% of Divorces are Initiated By WIVES
DIVORCE: ABUSE IN MARRIAGE
What If There Is Abuse In Marriage? What Does The Bible Say?
DIVORCE REGRET:
-(https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/insight-therapy/201510/is-marriage-worth-it-women)
-Divorce and Cheating: https://www.onlinedivorce.com/amp/blog/how-many-couples-regret-divorce/