How NOT To Get Divorced
Maintain Your Marriage
Stay Engaged and Connected
Chose To Love
Make Time
Be Affectionate
Gottman’s 7 Principles: Go Buy Their Book and Watch Every Single Video!
1. Share Love Maps: This is where all the information learned about our partners gets stored. One example of information gathered and stored is the things that they like and things that they dislike.
2. Nurture Your Fondness & Admiration: This is showing that you care about the other person and focusing on and acknowledging the positives. The basis for this starts in friendship.
3. Turn Towards Each Other Instead of Away: This is doing things together and showing the other person that they are valued. It is taking the time to listen and not telling them you don’t have time.
4. Let Your Partner Influence You: This is sharing the decision making and being willing to both make decisions and respect your partner’s decisions.
5. Solve Your Solvable Problems: this is realizing which problems can be solved and solving them using skills for managing conflict, which include: using Softened Startup, Repair and De-escalation, Physiological Self-Soothing, Accepting What You Cannot Change, Accepting Influence, and Compromise.
6. Overcome Gridlock: This is figuring out what is causing a block in your life and taking steps to overcome this block. It does not necessarily mean fixing problems but taking steps to overcome them.
7. Create Shared Meaning: This is creating a life that is shared and meaningful for both of you. “Marriage isn’t about just raising kids, splitting chores, and making love. It can also have a spiritual dimension that has to do with creating an inner life together–a culture rich with symbols and rituals, and an appreciation for your roles and goals that link you, that lead you to understand what it means to be part of the family you have become” (Gottman & Silver, 1999).
The Signs You Are Heading Towards Divorce
The Gottman Institute has done amazing research into this very aspect of marriage and is able to predict who will divorce with over 90% accuracy rate. So WATCH, READ, LISTEN and APPLY what they share and strengthen your marriage to keep yourself out of this category.
The Four Horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling
Two Years Before A Women Initiates Divorce
Your wife has been asking for help, she has been trying to talk to you, you might be taking it as nagging, annoying, her wanting more then you want to give.
This is one year before a women initiates divorce
Reasons Couples Divorce
1. Cheating
2. Communication
3. Commitment
Divorce Doesn’t mean You Have To Hate Each Other
Christianity Makes A Difference Christian Divorce Rates from Got Answers
We’ve all heard the claim: “Christians are just as likely to divorce as non-Christians.” This statement is often attributed to a 2008 study by the Barna Research Group that indicated that those who identified as Christian were just as likely as non-Christians to be divorced. This study was also broken down into subcategories by religious denomination, showing Baptists and non-denominational Protestants leading the way in divorce. The claim that the divorce rate among Christians equals that of non-Christians builds upon the common assumption that 50 percent of all marriages end in divorce. But, according to the latest research, those statements about the divorce rate, among Christians in particular, are untrue.
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Divorce rates are declining
You’ve probably heard the often-cited statistic that divorce rates are on the rise. Well, research shows that U.S. divorce rates have actually been declining since its peak of 40 percent around 1980. In fact, the chances of a first marriage lasting at least ten years were 68 percent for women and 70 percent for men, according to the National Survey of Family Growth. For the 20-year mark, the probability decreases to 52 percent for women and 56 percent for men. Another estimate claims that three-quarters of couples married in the 1990s would at least hit their 15-year anniversary compared to the 65 percent of couples who were hitched in the 1980s. Don’t miss these insightful marriage tips from grandmas to abide by in your own relationship.
DIVORCE STATISTICS
The study found that in the first year of separation the risk of being poor more than doubled for women (increasing from 9 to 22 percentage points). For men, the risk of poverty increased from 9 to 13 percentage points
>Women’s Probability of Being in Poverty More Than Doubles After Separation
RESORCES:
- Marriage And Money – Dave Ramsey Rant
- A good Mother’s Heartfelt Plea in Child Support Court | Seeking Fairness for Her Kids