Friend Culture

Who are your friends? (Your culture) Because you will end up like them. It is sad to say that if one of your closest friends should get divorced, you too will get divorced. This is something we have to guard against. My husband and myself have family and friends that have been divorced, but they in no way try to undermine our marriage. We were able to be there for them but guarded against any kind of negative influence that would cause in our marriage. If anyone should say anything negative about our spouse we would cut them off. Gently if we have to put space or cut off for a season, because our marriage is more valuable to us then our friendship. Sometimes you have to make a choice and if you do, choose your marriage. Your friend will come back around later if they are a real friend because they will have realized they were hurt and bitter from their divorce and that influenced their remarks. We all need friends but as you get into a serious relationship and then marriage your friend groups will probably change. My husband and myself got married when we were 19 and 21. All our friends were still going out dancing etc but we had each other and didn’t want to hit the clubs anymore. 


Your friends should brig it the best in you, and encourage you. They should be dependable and kind. Your friends should have similar world views. You can have fun and have acquaintances that have differing world views you just have to a mutual respect not to cross over into conflicting areas often cause then all you will do is fight.