How To Communicate Better? This is the #1 reason for divorce, so this should be the #1 thing you work on in your marriage. Michael Foster
To celebrate 20 years of marriage, I offer you 20 short reflections I’ve learned along the way…
1 Marry for demonstrated potential which is to say catch them on their way up
2 Marry as young as reasonable so that you develop your tastes and habits as a couple
3 Children are infinitely better than pets… so don’t delay having them
4 Have frank discussions about sexual expectations with your spouse and have as much sex as you both can
5 When arguing, stop and say, “Hey, I love you. We are on the same side. Let’s work this out together.”
6 Pray together everyday and share the things you’re learning from God’s Word
7 Take responsibility for your sins and failures by saying “I was wrong. There is no excuse. Please forgive me.”
8 Have a budget and have set times you can talk openly about finances
9 Make three or five year plans with one year benchmarks and follow it
10 Go to church… every Sunday… even when on vacation
11 Never have close opposite sex friends… friends of the couple is okay… but not as individuals
12 Never let your kids play you against each other even if you agree with them… work it with your spouse behind close doors
13 Wives shouldn’t nag, husbands should follow through on promises they make
14 If you forgave them, never bring it up again in an argument
15 Don’t let her coddle the kids, don’t let him exasperate them
16 Don’t overload your life with activities but rather maintain margin so you can work from rest
17 sometimes, maybe even often, expressing the willingness to fix the problem is more important than figuring out who’s to blame
18 In the long run, divorce is ALMOST always worse than a difficult marriage… so work on and fight for your marriage every single day
19 Play the long game… often marriages get worse before they get better
20 Enjoy every moment you have together, because the years go by easily.
P.S. Psalm 127:1
My Relationship went from Dead to Alive when I understood THIS..