Being a women or girl in modern times is one of the hardest things to navigate!
Only women who are half naked or completely naked are getting any attention, and the rest of us who are trying to live a moral life are absolutely completely ignored. We are being gaslit like we don’t even exist except to marketers who are trying to make money off of us or utterly destroy us as women.
But we are here doing the right thing, with the right heart and values being completely ignored overlooked and we feel invisible.
The QUESTION IS???
How to continue and honestly combat some of these serious issues which can utterly derail our lives and destroy our dreams.
Young Woman are Struggling
It is honestly disheartening with how everyone is slamming women, and marriage and yet there are literally millions of women who are good women, but the people who should know better are either silent or willfully ignorant.
Feminism has lied to women telling them they’ll be happy with a career, and no husband or children, and by the time they figure out that the feminist were wrong they are older and have a harder time finding a spouse and having children.
Woman you are a woman, the question is what kind of woman do you want to be?
What kind of future do you want?
What would you regret not doing?
Don’t focus on “What do you want to look like?” or “What do you want to own?”, but
“WHAT KIND OF PERSON DO YOU WANT TO BE?”
Exercise to help answer these questions:
You are in the hospital, on your death bed and you can feel your life ebbing out of you and you and look back on your life, what would you miss not doing, not having.
- What are your Principles and Values? (These form your character)
- What would you like people to say about you?
- Do you lie, cheat, steal, lazy? Is this who you want to be?
- Do you want to be kind, generous hearted, hard working, smart, wise?
- What are the most important things in life to you?
- Can you support yourself?
- What do you do with your time? Where you spend your time on, is what most important to you.
- Are you an adult? Check out our adulting list lol
- Should you wait until marriage to have sex?
- Do you want to get married?
- What kind of marriage do you want?
- Do you want children?
- How many?
- What would you regret doing?
- What would you regret not doing before you die?
- What you would want people to say about you at your funeral?
Women of Value:
- Women of value have moral integrity
- Women of value treat people the way they want to be treated
- Women of Value build up, (not tear down)
- Women of value respect their spouse (God, men, father)
- Women of value understand their worth
- Women of Value preserve their innocence,
Women of Value Do Not:
- Women of value do not use people
- Women of value do not sleep around
- Women of value do not use men for their pocket books
- Women of value do not rip apart marriages
- Women of value do not rip each other apart
Difference Between
Feminism, Women’s Rights & the Sexual Revolution
Feminism
Feminism is blaming men for all the worlds problems and not distinguishing between, what some people have done, an inequality of rights and opportunities and blaming ALL men (the patriarchy) for all of their woes.
Women’s Rights
Women’s rights are what most people think of when people say feminism. However women’s rights are simply that -Women should be able to vote, take out a loan from a bank, have a credit card and get a job if they are qualified. This is the goal and it has been attained.
Sexual Revolution
The Birth Control Pill which was to be the great equalizer between the sexes ended up being one of the hugest health risks, causes infertility, changes women hormonal so they are choosing different men then they would have of they hadn’t been on the pill, AND what was suppose to give women freedom to have sex without the consequences of sex (pregnancy) somehow a many, many more women are actually having children without being married and aborting their children. So! I would say the whole birth control pill thing has been an unequivocal failure. ESPECIALLY in terms of women’s happiness quotas.
Women are much, much less happy than before the Pill. Every generation has struggles. This is not heaven and there is no perfect on Earth. But we should be able to look back now and judge what has been helpful for women and what has actually ended up hurting women.
Women are hurting so badly – some are imploding by believing lies such as you can sleep around, be on OF and show off yourself and end up happy.
Most podcasts and shows on YouTube show _____ women saying really stupid stuff. These YouTube channels have a huge subscriber base of young men and all they show is half make OF women saying really ______ stuff. Meanwhile there are millions of young ladies who are making good choices not sleeping around, who are good and kind but they are not click bait so they don’t get shown so most young men think that ALL young women are sleeping around and doing crazy stuff and that’s just not true.
Every single person is unique and important. Both men and women. To constantly push these men’s faces into the worst of women’s behaviors is helping them to opt out of life, livings dating relationships. These shows are actually hurting young men who have opted out of dating by 66%! So instead of helping them find young women who would make a good girl friend or wife they smear all women in a very derogatory way.
The Fix- We actually know what makes women happy 😉
We know, but it is harder to do. We haven’t been raised to do it. But if you can read or listen or watch you can learn those things that will help you to not just be a happier women but actually live a life worth living, leave a legacy, grow in character, …
Fathers! Fathers be involved in yoru daughters life, even if you’ve never married her mother or you are divorced stay in yoru daughters life! This si the number 1 thing that will help your daughter get a better self image of who she actually is.
She will not be sleeping around if she gets proper attention and affection from her father. She has a self image that she has worth because she matters to him. When a father is absent from his daughters life she will search in all the wrong places, doing all the wrong things trying to fill this hole which only her father can fill.
If you are like me and have never seen your father and he has abdicated his responsibilities as a father, know that you have a heavenly Father who sees you, who loves you, and who can fill that hole in your heart. Matthew 6:8b-14
“for your Father knows what you need before you ask him. 9 “This, then, is how you should pray: “‘Our Father in heaven, hallowed be your name, 10 your kingdom come, your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven.11 Give us today our daily bread. 12 And forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors.13 And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from the evil one.’ 14 For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. 15 But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.
Psalm 65:5-6a “
5 A father to the fatherless, a defender of widows, is God in his holy dwelling.6 God sets the lonely in families, he leads out the prisoners with singing.”
Girls Problems and Mental Health:
Rampant sexual coercion, combined with social media and other pressures, is sowing the seeds of today’s record waves of crushing depression among teen girls, and a new report documents just how bad the situation has gotten: Per the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention study, teen girls are forced to have sex (raped) at the “highest level we’ve ever seen.” More than half (57%) of girls felt persistently sad or hopeless in 2021, double the rate for teen boys (29%), while nearly one in three girls seriously considered suicide.
These alarming statistics shouldn’t surprise us, given that sexually active teens are more likely to be depressed and attempt suicide, and the confidence of teenage girls especially plummets after sexual activity.
Almost 15% of teen girls said they were forced to have sex (raped), up from 12% in 2011 and the first jump since government researchers began tracking. Yet today’s Hollywood culture, run by liberal progressives, often encourages teenagers to embrace hookup sex, albeit “safe sex” with consent. Teen movies and film normalize teen sexual activity as desirable and marginalize virgins as awkward and hopelessly condemned. (Behind teen girls’ sky-high depression: Forced sex, social media By Carrie Sheffield Published Feb. 24, 2023) New York Post
The problem for women is that some of their role models
What has been displayed and promoted are warped examples of true womanhood and what we should aspire to be. It has been the purposeful demolition of the family. Femininity, the media and the culture promote a sexually loose women as free, a wife and mother as bound and old fashioned, education as an end, leading everything as the goal all without any kind of morality or character.
What Is A High Value Man?
A High Value Man is Someone Who >sees the Best in a Women
>Brings out the Best in that Woman
>And wants the Best for that Woman
Let’s Look At The Data
SUICIDE
- Women’s suicide rate increased 3.8% from 2021 to 2022
- Men’s suicide rate only increased by 2.3%
- However men’s suicide rate is still substantially higher 2022-(men 39,255, women 10,194)
WEALTH
- Women’s Single Wealth Rate: $47,000 Average
- Women’s Married Wealth Rate:
- WINNER!!!
HAPPINESS
- Women’s Single Happiness Rate:
- Women’s Married Happiness Rate: Happiest
Married With Children Are The Happiest! 87.1%
HEALTH
- Married Women’s Are Healthier, Happier and Live Longer than Single Women.
DEATH
- Women’s Single Age of Death Rate: Die 2+ years sooner
- Women’s Married Age of Death Rate: Live 3.5-5.5+ years longer
SEX
- Women’s Single Happiness: Unsatisfied
- Women’s Married: Happy
- Christian Woman Married: Happiest!
God uniquely designed woman, she was (was the only part of creation to be taking out of another) she was taken out of man. She was not made from the dust of the earth. All the animals were made form the dusts of the earth, Adam was made from the dust of the earth and THEN God breathed into him. Making him a very unique and special creation himself. Woman is made unique to be made comparable to man. Not taken from his foot to be stepped on, on taken from his head so she could lord over him, but taken from is side. So that together they will journey through this life. Sharing the struggles and burdens, its joys and its sorrows, building, dreaming, making, and helping each other.
Picture this; Adam with his arm around Eve, Eve with one hand over Adams heart and her other protecting his back, (or around his waist) as a co helper.
Man was created first, as a leader he saw and named every single animal but there was NO comparable helper or companion for him. For some reason God wanted Adam to see that. To see that he saw every single animal created and not one was a good companion or comparable to him.
Eve as the Mother of all humanity. Gods purpose of a woman has more purpose and meaning then any feminist could possibly attribute to a woman. Without her no life would come forth. So what is more important than that? Bringing life into the world?
God purpose is higher, more elevated, more worth while, purposeful and fulfilling.
If you have a woman who is marriage material and do not marry her you are crushing her spirit. You are breaking something in her that is intrinsic to who she is. She knows intuitively from God that you should be asking her to marry you, but you are not stepping up. Is he not stepping up because of fear? because he’s not sure he’s ready? Is he believing the lies of the culture telling him he has to make this much $ or be this or that. Or is he afraid he’s not going to be the kind of husband he wants to be because he’s never seen one.
Or doe she not really care and being selfish, he knows she wont leave him, that she loves him and he’s just stringing her along not caring about what’s important to her.
She should not have to beg you to marry her. If you do not put a ring on her and marry her then YOU are Not a MAN! You are simply a boy in a man’s body.
DATING ADVICE
Date 8 months then access whether this is someone you would marry? If not break up, and if yes this is so you want to spend the rest of you life with and build a family with- start talking seriously about marriage and optimally be married within two years of dating.
NATURALLY BEAUTIFUL
Each person is created unique. Regardless of what you look like. Don’t over focus on your looks that only brings misery. Focus on becoming a better human being. Being kind, generous, thoughtful. You can start right where you are in your own home or with your close friends. Do something for someone else today!
Every day usually (lol) when I get up I think Ok God what good thing are we going to do today. I want to leave a blessing behind me. Start small and work up. (read the beginning of this page over it goes into details of why are we here on earth? purpose and meaning and how to be a better human being.